We all have them

Those moments that replay in your head like a broken record. The ones where you think:

"I should have said something."

"Why didn't I stand up for myself?"

"If only I'd had the guts to say what I was really thinking."

The conversation with your boss where you stayed silent.

The family dinner where someone crossed a line and you just smiled.

The friend who took advantage of you, and you said "it's fine."

These are your "coulda, woulda, shoulda" moments. And they're eating you alive.

Why We Freeze in the Moment

There are a lot of reasons you might not speak up when something happens:

- You're caught off guard

- You're afraid of the consequences (losing your job, damaging a relationship, causing a scene)

- You were raised to be "nice" be polite, and avoid conflict

- Your nervous system goes into freeze mode

- You literally can't find the words

None of these make you weak. They make you human.

But here's the problem: even though the moment has passed, your body is still holding onto it.

The Replay Loop

You know what I'm talking about. You replay that missed moment over and over:

"I should have said this."

"Next time, I'll say that."

"Why can't think on my feet?"

"Why didn't I just say no, stop that?"

But replaying it without resolution doesn't help. In fact, it makes it worse.

Every time you replay the memory, your brain and body experience it as if it's happening now. Your nervous system gets activated. Your heart rate increases. Your muscles tense.

You're re-traumatizing yourself, over and over, without ever getting relief.

That's why you can tell the same story 20 times and still feel like it just happened yesterday.

What If You Could Get a Do-Over?

This is where Bitch Tap® comes in.

My method is specifically designed for missed moments—the ones where you didn't get to say what you needed to say.

Bitch Tap® gives you your second chance.

Here's how it works:

Step 1: Identify the missed moment

Think of a specific situation where you wish you'd spoken up. Don't pick something vague—pick one clear memory.

Step 2: Start tapping

Tap on the EFT acupressure points (I'll teach you exactly where in my demo videos).

Step 3: Say everything you didn't say

This is your moment. Imagine that person is sitting right in front of you, and this time, you get to tell them off.

Say every cuss word. Say every petty thought. Say everything you've been holding back.

Give them a damn good "reading."

Step 4: Keep going until the charge is gone

Don't stop after one round. Keep tapping and bitching until that memory collapses—until you can think about it without your stomach dropping or your jaw clenching...and you're finally bored with the issue.

Finally, the Squirrel Gets the Nut

That's the phrase I use with clients: "You finally get your nut."

Meaning: you finally get the satisfaction, the relief, the closure you've been craving.

You get to say what you should have said. You get your power back.

And here's the beautiful part: you don't actually have to confront the person in real life to get that relief.

Your nervous system doesn't know the difference between imagining the conversation while tapping and having the actual conversation. As long as you're expressing the truth out loud, your body gets the message: "Okay, we said it. We can let this go now."

A Real-Life Example

I had a client—let's call her Sarah—who'd been holding onto a conversation with her mother for 15 years.

Her mom had said something cruel at Sarah's wedding, and Sarah just smiled and walked away. But for 15 years, she replayed that moment, beating herself up for not saying anything.

We did one round of Bitch Tap®. Sarah tapped while she finally told her mother off—out loud, in my office, with every F-bomb she'd been saving.

"How dare you say that to me on my wedding day. You were jealous and petty and you tried to ruin my happiness. I'm done protecting your feelings when you never protected mine."

By the end, Sarah wasn't shaking anymore. She could breathe. She even laughed.

"I can't believe I've been carrying that for 15 years," she said. "It feels so stupid now."

Not stupid. Human. But finally, resolved.

This Works for Any Missed Moment

You can use Bitch Tap® for:

- The coworker who dumped their work on you

- The ex who said something unforgivable

- The parent who never apologized

- The friend who betrayed you

- The stranger who was rude to you in public

- Yourself—for all the times you didn't show up the way you wish you had

Yes, you can (and should) use this on yourself. Bitch yourself out for staying in that relationship too long, for not setting boundaries, for not speaking up.

You'll be amazed how much better you feel when you stop punishing yourself internally and just say it out loud.

Stop Replaying. Start Releasing

You don't have to keep living in those missed moments.

You can get your power back. You can get your peace back. You can finally let it go.

Ready to try Bitch Tap®?

Start with my free "What is Energy Psychology?" video to understand the foundation, then listen to my Bitch Tap® "podcast" for the story of how this approach evolved from classical EFT and why it's so powerful.

Join my email list and I'll send you guided tutorials so you can start speaking your truth—out loud, unapologetically, powerfully.

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